Dreaming with a Broken Heart


I read a post yesterday by my friend Jake Jorgovan called Why Most People Never Accomplish Their Dreams, in which he said, "Comfort is the slow silent death of dreams and ambitions." This really resonated with me because I am currently in the process of going for one of my big dreams, and comfort is definitely what held me back, up until now. Comfort, and a hefty dose of fear. Many people are under the misguided impression that chasing your dreams can only begin when you learn how to overcome the paralyzing fear that holds you hostage in the land of comfort. However, I think that "feeling the fear and doing it anyway", as my boyfriend often says, probably paints a better picture of courage. Whether we want to admit it or not, the scariest thing about chasing dreams is the very real promise of failure. Dreams that don't run the risk of disappointment aren't dreams worth having. If your dream doesn't have speed bumps along the way, it probably wasn't much of a long shot to begin with. Big dreams, the ones that we want more than anything to come true, always leave a few broken hearts along the way.

I am lucky enough to have had a few of my big dreams come true, but I am also lucky enough to have had a few of my big dreams crash and burn, with no hope of recovery. And when those dreams meet their end, the idea of falling in love with something else seems like an insurmountable challenge. But, if you don't run the risk of failure, you will spend your life in love with a dream that will never come true. Refusing to chase a dream is akin to having a crush on someone without ever asking them on a date. Nothing will ever happen, but you'll spend your life wondering what if you had just given it a shot. 

Dreaming with a broken heart implies that you have had a dream fail before, which makes you lucky, in my opinion. You know the risk of going for your dream, but you are willing to try again and position yourself for reward.

Play the odds. You'll fall in love again.